Successful Parenting After Divorce
Long Island Divorce Lawyer
Legally ending a marriage can be extremely stressful. Even when both parties agree to the divorce, many decisions will need to be made before the process is complete. When minor children are involved, a parenting plan will be required to ensure their well-being. This includes custody, visitation, and support arrangements that will provide the children with stability, minimize potential conflicts, and establish an overall framework for their future care and upbringing. A Long Island family lawyer can give you worthwhile advice regarding co-parenting and how to achieve your child-rearing goals after a divorce.
If you are in need of advice regarding parenting after a divorce, speak with our firm during a free case evaluation.
Using Mediation to Establish Co-Parenting Agreements
Many parents may wish to seek mediation in order to avoid having to discuss their personal matters in court, and in many cases, this can result in more amicable outcomes that benefit the family as a whole. Our legal team is available to work as mediators in order to help you come to an agreement about child custody, support, and visitation that is suitable for both spouses and will provide the best possible scenario for your child.
Tips for Post-Divorce Co-Parenting
Successful co-parenting after a divorce will require ongoing communication regarding a range of issues related to your children's welfare and upbringing, including daily routines, schedules, education, and discipline. Parents should continue to work together for the benefit of their children. Maintaining a positive attitude throughout the many changes that will be occurring will help ease the transition and make it easier for your child to adjust.
Other ways to achieve success as a co-parent post-divorce include:
- Maintain as much consistency as possible.
- Make decisions based on the best interests of your children.
- Consult with each other on any major child-rearing decisions.
- Be flexible and forgiving if things don't work out as planned.
- Adhere to established visitation schedules.
- Keep agreements regarding child support.
- Develop and maintain a considerate relationship.
- Cooperate with each other.
- Support your children's relationship with the other parent.
- Respect each other's parenting styles.
- Quickly address and resolve any problems that occur.
- Keep each other informed and up-to-date on your children's activities.
- Avoid conflicts as much as possible, especially around the children.
- Do not question your children about the other parent.
You will also achieve success with co-parenting if you keep your children's needs a priority and the basis for important and long-term decisions.
With this in mind, try to avoid making the following mistakes:
- Don’t make your child a messenger. You should avoid talking to your spouse through your children – this may cause an emotionally distressing situation for your child. Make sure you are handling your own challenges with your former spouse so your child doesn’t have to share the burden.
- Don’t make your child your therapist. It may be tempting to vent to your child, but don’t do it. Avoid sharing your angry feelings or too many details about your divorce with your child.
- Listen to your child when they need to talk. If they come to you with questions or just need to “talk it out,” listen to them without being hostile or critical toward your ex-spouse. Be more focused on your child’s feelings than on your own, and make sure you let them know that their feelings are valid and that they are understood.
Contact Our Long Island Divorce Attorneys
Wisselman & Associates is a highly regarded family law firm that can provide divorcing parents with qualified assistance in the development of parenting plans. Our firm can also help a parent with modifications to an existing custody or support agreement.
We have over 150 years of combined experience in the legal field. We are standing by to take your call 24/7 to see how we may be able to assist you. Contact a Long Island divorce lawyer at our office if you are a parent seeking a divorce, or for essential information on child custody, support, and parenting plans.